I have the answer.
But that certainly does not mean that today was an easy day in the classroom. Sigh.
After my big recent discoveries I was set! I have lessons that rock. I have skills and strategies that can help.
But today. Sigh.
A different friend decided to see if she could get me riled. Get my goat. Get me to lose my cool.
She kinda did. Dang it!
We butted heads and I forgot all about brain states.
She was disrespectful and I forgot to breathe.
At recess I remembered that we needed to "talk" (teacher speak for I'm gonna lecture and she's gonna listen). As I went to find her I heard Rachel in my head...
"Five minutes a day keeps the tantrums away."
What's to lose? Nothing else is getting through to her.
When I found her I said let's talk. She grabbed my hand (WHAT?) and we started walking.
I said "Will you play with me?"
She said, "Yes".
I said, "What do you want to play?"
She said, "Let's build a sand castle."
So we did. I sat on the sand, got sand all over me and dug in the sand. (Even while protecting my finger nail polish.)
I learned the finer points of finding the wet sand and creating a sand castle.
I really didn't want to go in at the end of recess, because being together was nice.
Maybe she will play with me again at the next recess.